Life as a transgender parent Parenting post-divorce can actually be kind of awesome. This isn't fair to them. I had everything I needed with Mike, but he needed this to help him figure things out. This means different things for different couples, and they tend to feel the same loss that began to weigh heavily on them before the disclosure. And the wife may wonder if anything was real about the partner she thought she knew so well. The gay spouse becomes angry because they feel pressured to do something they know they can no longer do. Heterosexually married gay men feel enormous responsibility and guilt.
He is constantly angry at me and seems to hold a grudge against me for keeping him attached to this relationship.
How helping my husband discover he’s gay helped me let go
I left our Texas townhouse that morning sweating in my conservative summer suit and threw my briefcase in the Toyota. When came to an end, I was ready to focus on me— was going to be my year. Our helpline is offered at no cost to you and with no obligation to enter into treatment. Marriages that have deception of self or of spouse at the core typically do not have nice stories about how everyone gets along now after they end. It was clear that people in the class came from all walks of life and had many different levels of experience with gay people.
Their lives were eerily parallel: Having sexual attraction to the same sex is no one's fault and likely has been there since birth. I cried so loudly that our eldest child opened the door to ask what was wrong. But there is seldom anything about how we continue to cope with co-parenting, new relationships, and moving forward. But the roller coaster ride just kept on going. That was just one of the interesting questions that we were asked, but it was the one that affected us the most.